Adopted Daddy.

The very first time we met Hollis and her girls was at a South Florida Asia Group picnic. Our girls gravitated towards one another and at one point in the pool I was playing with Hollis' 2 oldest girls and Lily. They all swam like fish and were so much fun. Trevi was just a tiny little thing and had not been home for very long and she stayed close to her mum. I do remember Jacob taking all 4 of them and pushing them on the swings and I even have photos on the blog somewhere of him doing it. He was running all over the place trying to keep them all going. We adults all chatted briefly but that was it.

Approximately 6 months later we met again at another picnic and the girls went running to greet each other and out of nowhere Trevi yelled, "Daddy, Daddy, my Daddy is here" and a beautiful friendship was born. From that moment Trevi has considered Jacob to be her Daddy. Lily is not her sister, I am Dawn, (although at first I believe I may have been invisible but now I am very much in her heart) and since Rosie came along later she is her baby sister Rosie. None of us know why Trevi adopted Jacob to be her Daddy and none of us object. Lily understands and Rosie has always none things to be this way. All of her siblings know the truth yet they all accept that Trevi has chosen Jacob to be her Daddy. She started joining the older girls on sleepovers here just so that she could be with Jacob and he would try very hard to do something just with her even if it was only a trip to get gas in his car. Sometimes when I am talking to Hollis on the phone a little voice will say in the background, "is that Dawn, is my Dad at work?" Whenever we go there or she comes here or we meet somewhere Trevi bounds up to him squealing, Daddy Daddy and jumps right in his arms.

As with most pre-schools Trevi's class made a Fathers Day card and present and the teacher asked Hollis if she wanted Trevi to make one for her Grandma but Hollis said, No, she can make one for her Dad. Apparently the teacher was surprised since she also taught Hollis' older girls and knows they don't have a Father. ~snort. It's always fun to have the upper hand.

Trevi nearly burst with pride when presented Jacob with his Fathers Day gift a couple of weeks ago and Jacob couldn't have been a prouder Daddy.

Trevi and her Dad and the tie she made for him

All comfy watching T.V.
Trevis Fathers Day card.

Hollis, Jacob and I joke privately about me being the other woman and sometimes when we are all out together things become very confusing for other people when we explain that Lily and Rosie belong to Jacob and I and that Joie, Anlei and Trevi belong to Hollis and Trevi will suddenly pipe up and call Jacob her Daddy just as we have explained who belongs to who. Hey, let them work it out we don't have any questions at all.

If not for this amazing little girl and her great taste in dad's we would not have the new family that we now have and life without Hollis, Grace, Joie, Anlei and Trevi is unconscionable .

One day she will realise that she adopted him and not the other way around and honestly I think that will make Jacob really sad. Maybe it won't make any difference to either one of them and it certainly won't make an iota of difference to the friendship between our 2 families.

Anyone can be a Father but it takes someone special to be a Daddy.